For us 2016 was a year of lessons, a year of forgiveness, a year of new ideas and old coming together and at the very end finding harmony in both and a whole bunch of healing. The healing came from all areas business, personal, etc., and by end of December we were able to lay some things to rest. With love, pride, and most of all respect of ourselves and those around us.
2017 shows the promise of new birth, ideas and growth in a calm yet exciting way… as I sit in front of my computer writing you this… I smile, knowing that for so many (including myself and my family) 2016 was a tough year full of challenges and bitter sweet triumphs and ends to so many things. The feeling for some of us to make “changes” may be almost overwhelming at this point, my suggestion is take time, inventory where you are at and mostly breath through the process. If you are uncertain, reach out and extend yourself to someone who can become a positive influence or guide in your life, so that you too can move in a more positive and healthy direction. We are never alone, it just sometimes feels that way… May 2017 bring on all that your heart desires, for the greater good in the most bedevilment way. Trust in whatever you believe that all will come out as it should.
With so much love and light… Nicky
The desire to change is innate, it is a primal instinct… but, can we get “lost” in the pattern of change?
So we are all looking for something… a better way of doing things, a new perspective on life? What does “better” mean? What if your already better and you don’t know it? What if you are so caught up in the pattern of the “search for better” that you can’t see that you are there and that “change” really is just part of the process.
Media likes to throw it in our faces, “quick fixes”, “loose this”, “take off that”, “change this”, “fix that”… we become our own biggest judges and our own worst enemies, which at some point in our lives causes us, to become overwhelmed with the desire to become better people, setting in depression, stress, anxiety… etc.
Drive is innate… We are driven to grow and expand, and change which I believe is truly what can be considered our fountain of youth. If we do not strive or look towards “something better” then we lose our purpose or our “zest” for life and we become mundane and our interest for life begins to dwindle. Growth, expansion and change keeps our “spark” lit, and allows us all too uniquely navigate through this world. It is innate, this quest for life and personal expansion, but beware and realize that it is truly your path and that some of us are happy with a life that functions on the primal instincts and needs to survive.
Some of us move within our primal instincts shifting from eat, breed, poop and complacent living, choosing to numb life in one form or another. Living in the same pot or shifting just enough to survive content not to grow. And we have to learn to be ok with the choice of others , and we have no right to change them or force them to move… true expansion of life is self-ignited. We can coach and lead, but however… the decision must be totally up to the individual.
On the other hand our innate need for personal expansion can lead us down many paths as we develop within the context of our individual lives, but our initial steps that can put us on the road to evolution are not always clear.
So the question of “if this is it… why don’t I feel like it is enough?”, is so common for the majority of us. We get that we want to be better but we truly have no clear definition of what is “better” or we are so used to the want and desire that we continuously chase our tail, looking for what may be under our nose already.
This can be so frustrating the feeling of uncertainty the “unknowing”. But we can take small steps, towards keeping our own concept of growth in mind and on track without self-judgment. We also do not have to depend upon others to keep track of our journey and most definitely not impose our desire for change onto others.
Allow yourself to lead by example, rather than allowing others to direct the course of our journey. Accept that change won’t happen overnight–we may not recognize the transformations taking place within us at first, so be patient.
Becoming a “new you” or a “better person” in your own eyes is a whole-life project, and thus you should focus your step-by-step efforts on multiple areas of your existence.
Start by deciding what kind of person you are, and see if there are qualities that you want to move into or add. Which qualities do you consider you already have that are innately good? Growing as an individual is simply a matter of making an effort to do good whenever possible and then adding to the goodness that you already possess.
Above all respect should be a key element of your efforts, when dealing with yourself or with others. Always ask, is what I am about to say respectful to others and also to myself? Acknowlede that all people are deserving of compassion, consideration, and dignity. Remember you are naturally more apt to treat them in the manner you yourself wish to be treated.
By doing these check-ins, you will intuitively become a more active listener, universally helpful, and truthful. Going the extra mile in all you do can also facilitate evolution. Watching how you approach your life and performing your everyday duties with an upbeat attitude and positive expectations can help you make the world a brighter, more cheerful place.
Then come to terms with your values and abide by them will enable you to introduce a new degree of integrity and dignity into your life. If something feels icky, guess what… IT’S ICKY! If something feels too good to be true… guess what, IT PROBABLY IS!
List and take pride not only in your successes, but also in the fact that you are cultivating consciousness within yourself through your choices, actions, and behaviors. While you may never feel you have reached the pinnacles of awareness you hope to achieve, you can make the most of this creative process of transformation. Becoming a better person is your choice and is a natural progression in your journey of self-awareness.
And remember to always walk with your eyes wide open, do not be blind or become complacent to your patterns. Be true to yourself. If you are stuck, it is the patterns that you have cultivated that keep you from changing. Ask yourself, “What I am choosing, is it for the greater good of myself, (or whomever) if it is and your innate self does not waver… then GO FOR IT!
Ask for the most benevolent outcome… it will show up!